Only that it would be worth it….
And, it is.
Without boring readers with details of site migration, server upgrades, service integration, html code, php (which I KNOW stands for something), and ftp/file transfer protocol, Lifetime’s new website is finally complete. The labor of love that has consumed me for weeks, emotionally wrecked me for days when I found out that all previous content was gone, poof, buh-bye, and left me sitting at the computer until my butt was numb has finally come to be, the way that it should be. I realized there must be a lesson in this. And, for an active blogger, that means there must be a blog in this. There is.
Nobody said it would be easy, only that it would be worth it. I don’t know who said it, who this “Nobody” person is, just like I really don’t know any “Riley” living a great, exuberant life kicking back in a hammock with an umbrella drink (because that’s the “Life of Riley” I imagine). Regardless, Nobody is right.
Sometimes in life we have to break it down completely in order to build it back up, be it relationships, websites, whatever… there is always something new to be discovered through difficulties and difficult times. But, we are virtually incapable of reaping any reward without getting lost, at least once, first. Sometimes, we have to break something to build something better. More so, we have to recognize how broken it is to put the effort in just as hard to build it better. In life, I call these AFGO’s: Another ——- Growth Opportunity. In websites, I call it ‘holy moses, 18 pages and weeks of work just went BOOM.’
Feeling lost shouldn’t be scary. It is an opportunity to learn. Be the change you want to see in the world: it’s 80% mental. In my book, “The Power of Me Project,” I talk about immersing yourself in your own best success, your own motivation, and your goals. When you feel lost, get lost. Just let it go: feel it, do not avoid it, accept it, surrender to it. Cry about it, write about it, swear about it if you want to: whatever it takes to break it down. I will never say that it’s NOT scary to feel it: if only we were capable of seeing that the reward would be worth it, it would not be.
I don’t know about any of you but I know I don’t want easy. To be honest, I have seen easy: it was stagnant, content, safe, B-O-R-I-N-G. And, often times we ask ourselves why something has to be so hard, like why did I have to spend countless hours with self-taught computer code to re-build my website on my own when the tech people on the other end of the phone told me that it was gone and they could not fix it. When it’s easy, there is no lesson, no growth opportunity, no improvement, no learning. And I have always thought that when we stop learning we stop growing.
As a Nationally Certified Interventionist, it is my duty and responsibility to help a person struggling with addiction to mimic the experience of “hitting rock bottom” with the help and convergence of his or her supportive family and/or friends. We could argue that anyone battling addiction is already lost; and, indeed that is true. But, he or she has not lost enough, felt enough loss to want to change. In that glorious moment when that person says yes to the help being offered, learning, growth, and reward are closer than they have ever been.
There are a plethora of quotes that come to mind that further validate this philosophy: anything worth having is worth fighting for, life is like a box of chocolates: you never know what you’re gonna get, no risk: no reward. All are true.
So, next time you feel lost, lose yourself then be the change you want to be, make the changes you want to make. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it.
Until next time,